My Riffs

Most of the time, they just need a good listener.  People don’t need you to fix all their problems.  They just need someone who can listen.  Both so they can feel understood but also so they can just get their feelings out.  Practice actively listening. Practice giving your attention to someone. 

The quality of your life is directly proportional to the quality of relationships you have.  Find great people, spend time with them and you’ll have a better life. 

One basic and easy way to make friends is simply to be friendly. Being friendly will attract friendly people.  Being miserable will have the opposite effect.  So to have friends, learn to be interested in other people and friendly. 

Don’t leave unsaid. I’m primarily talking about positive things. Say them. Give the compliment. Say the positive thing.  Also, find a way to say the difficult things, just say them the right way. 

When you don’t feel like doing something is when the time it really counts. Because if you stop then you’re not being consistent. And consistency is how you make gains.  Of course the task has to be aligned with your goals.  When it gets difficult is when it really matters and makes a difference. You can’t level up when it’s easy. 

How do other people and situations get us mad and frustrated? For most of us, it could be far too often.  One life hack to slow down on the frustrations at others is to learn to get curious.  Here’s an example, someone cuts you off in traffic. Get curious, ask what could be going on in their life that would cause them to be so inconsiderate. Or maybe how could they have learned to be so inconsiderate.  Somebody doesn’t communicate with you or not how you wanted? Get curious. What could have been going on in their day or their life that caused them to treat you that way? Come across an angry person? Wonder about what could have happened in their life to make them this way.  If you stay curious, it makes things less personal and more about the person or situation you’re dealing with. Not to shift blame or responsibility, but to help yourself get less frustrated or angry.  Everybody is dealing with more than we know. If we give them that grace, we will make dealing...