Engage vs. Combat
The best way to settle conflict, to settle disagreements, to settle misunderstandings, is to engage. Not combat.
It's instinctive and we often aren't even aware of it, we go into discussions and conversations not even realizing it, but thinking "how do I prove my point?" or "how do I disprove their point?".
It's hard, but if you're able to defeat that pathological behaviour, you've just opened your world up to so much.
Don't combat. Engage.
Engaging means, dropping your arguments, your stake, your pride, and... Listening. Putting yourself into the other sides shoes, and earnestly feeling what they've saying. Forcing yourself to actually understand what they're saying. Chances are, they aren't crazy, what they're saying has merit and value, probably equal to yours. We're usually just unwilling to go there because we're in combat mode.
Engaging one-ups traditional toleration. Secular tolerance is weak. I'm speaking of the kind of tolerance that looks down it's nose at others, and says "I'll tolerate you". Engaging levels up on tolerating.
Engage > Combat.
It's instinctive and we often aren't even aware of it, we go into discussions and conversations not even realizing it, but thinking "how do I prove my point?" or "how do I disprove their point?".
It's hard, but if you're able to defeat that pathological behaviour, you've just opened your world up to so much.
Don't combat. Engage.
Engaging means, dropping your arguments, your stake, your pride, and... Listening. Putting yourself into the other sides shoes, and earnestly feeling what they've saying. Forcing yourself to actually understand what they're saying. Chances are, they aren't crazy, what they're saying has merit and value, probably equal to yours. We're usually just unwilling to go there because we're in combat mode.
Engaging one-ups traditional toleration. Secular tolerance is weak. I'm speaking of the kind of tolerance that looks down it's nose at others, and says "I'll tolerate you". Engaging levels up on tolerating.
Engage > Combat.
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