Boundaries

Humans need boundaries.

When we are really young or unlearned, we need boundaries to be formed for us. And you will see younger people push up against those boundaries to test them and see if they hold, or if they really need to be there.

The goal is to get people to a point where they can develop these boundaries on their own though, so at some point they stop pushing and testing every boundary, but that they learn to abide by the boundaries they have voluntarily set.

It's part of salt-actualization and self-opining. This is where we need to help people develop to.

You want your children to be good at decision making and boundary creating on their own. You cannot be there to set every boundary and make every decision for them. Getting them to a place where they are good at that on their own is the goal.

This expands out further past just child raising, it goes for leaders and influencers.

You want people to come to a point where they become well functioning, good decisions makers and clear thinkers.

A forced opinion or forced boundary will never do the job a self formed opinion or boundary will do.
The trick is developing someone to the place where they can do this competently.